Baby Dumping

Baby dumping

Definition: baby dumping can be defining as leaving alone or discarding a new-born baby or a kid below 12 month. Usually, babies were dumping at the public or private place such as: toilet, mosque, temple, church, and some predicts place such as dustbin.

Causes of baby dumping:

1) Parents
2) Friends
3) Website
4) Ourselves

Parents

Parents play an important role on giving a knowledge and theology to their children. Some parents are fail to control their temper when knowing their daughter was pregnant under age and they just abandon their daughter that cause the girl are stressing and take the simple solution to dump the baby.

Friends

When children come into the teen age and furthering their study at public or private university, they meet a new friend with different background. A good friend will conduct us to do a good things but a bad and wild friend will cause a bad influence to use such as involves us to a social problem that cause baby dumping.

Website

Nowadays, children or teen are exposing with insecure things in the website which they can easily access to anything they want to know. Through our economics progress nowadays, teenagers are easily to browser any website including pornographic materials and sex oriented film. This all sources can cause teenagers have a desire to try what they saw and this lead to the social problem and finally cause the baby dumping.

Ourselves

Everything is start up from us. Community now is repeating the old acting of jahiliah which is dumping baby or kill them especially baby girl just because they want to protect the family dignity. Pressure from the community force the baby dumper take the stupid solution to cover their sins having an illegal baby by dumped the baby. We can read on the newspaper or listen to the radio and others mass media about the baby dumping. Every year, cases about baby dumping increasing day by day. 

 All the babies are found in the garbage who dumped  by their own heartless mothers. Some of the babies success to survive, while the rest are dead.

The statistic of baby dumping which is reported by PDRM

Oh mom! Don't dumped us, please raise me up!

REMEDY FOR THIS ILLNESS

As we know, the major cause of baby dumping is pre-marital sex or in Islam, muslim call it as zina. Because of shame, the mothers of the babies are reluctant to raise their babies. So, to overcome baby dumping means that to prevent the zina from occur. Like the old folk says, "Prevention is Better Than Cure"

• Avoid from involving in love relationship and keep away yourselves from go nigh to zina

Both women and men should avoid themselves from approaching zina by not having any love relationship with different gender. Allah says: 

"And come not nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils)"(AL ISRA : verse 32)

This sin is so hateful in the sight of Our Lord, that He commanded us to not even go near it. Despite what anyone may say, looking upon that which one is not supposed to is going near adultery. For an illicit affair begins with a lustful glance. Allah wishes for us not to commit this ugly sin, and thus He commands us to lower our gazes. Allah says:

"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! Turn ye all together towards Allah that ye may attain Bliss"
(An-Noor : verse 30-31)

Lowering the gaze does not mean keeping our eyes constantly on the ground and not looking up at all. It is turning our faces away when we see a less-than-decently dressed woman or man walking on the street in the middle of the day or at any time.

Also, on the authority of Jurayr r.a. who said, "I asked the Prophet Muhammad pbu. about accidentally looking at something that is not allowed (women's aurah) and Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, " Turn your eyes away ."  (Sahih Muslim) 

The Apostle, Muhammad pbuh said more : "O group of youths, whosoever amongst you has the means of getting married, should do so because it lowers the gaze and protects the private parts; and whosoever does not have the ability, should fast, for indeed, it is a protection for him."  (Sahih Al-Bukhari) 

Muhammad pbuh said: “The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of the ears is listening, the zina of the tongue is speaking, the zina of the hand is touching, and the zina of the foot is walking. The heart wishes and longs and the private part confirms that or denies it.” (Sahih Muslim)

•  Women should wear hijab and cover her aurah

Women should wear hijab and cover her aurah properly because in Islam every hair that is shown to a non-mahram is counted as a sin. Multiply the number of hairs by the number of non-mahram who see your hair daily and by the number of days you went out without Hijaab and the number of pictures you took without Hijaab.

A women in Hijab is like a jewel that is of high exceptional value and that which must be kept hidden. Wearing the Hijab is a choice that Muslim women make. To discard the Hijab or expose that part of her body ordered covered by the Divine Law is to disobey Islamic principles and a women's basic Islamic belief.

 

Islam commands women to cover their bodies so as not to trouble men who are weak and unable to resist temptation. In Islam, men and women are commanded to dress modestly and not appear "naked" in public, even in all male and female situations.

Just as a short skirt or a see-through dress can send the signal that the wearer is available to men, so the Hijab signals, loud and clear: "I am forbidden to you." Wearing the Hijab protects the female from harassment and men. It is the western women who are to be pitied for displaying their private self for all to see.

An American, Ruth Anderson, has said: "Hijab is not a sign of backwardness, ignorance or mental incompetence, but a woman's duty and her right."

We are here in this temporary Dunya to use our beauty according to the conditions Allah has put for us.

Our  Allah has blessed women with beauty which is to be kept precious and rare. And not put on display for everyone to see. Precious things are to be kept safe and hidden.

Allah says: "O prophet! tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested: and Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
(Al-Ahzab: verse 59)

STORY: THE FLOWER AND THE PEARL

A flower and a pearl were engrossed in conversation when suddenly a tinge of distress appeared on the flower. " Nothing accounts for sorrow in your talk; so why are you depressed?" Τhe pearl asked. Τhe flower sighed : "Humans deal with us carelessly, they slight us. They don't grow us for our sake but to get pleasure from our fragrance and beautiful appearance. They throw us on the street or in the garbage can after we are dispossessed of the most valuable properties, brilliance and fragrance."

And then the flower said to the pearl: " Speak to me about your life! How do you live? How do you feel? Buried in the bottom of the sea?"

Τhe pearl answered: "Although I have none of your distinctive colors and sweet scents, humans think I'm precious. Τhey do the impossible to procure me. They go on long journeys, dive deep in seas searching for me. You might be astounded to know that the further I lay, the more beautiful and brilliant I become. That's what raises my value in their thought. I live in a thick shell isolated in the dark seas. However, I'm happy and proud to be in a safe zone far from wanton and mischievous hands and still the humans consider me highly valuable"....<3

Do you know what the flower and the pearl symbolizes?

You will find that the flower is the woman who shows her charms and the pearl is the veiled woman who conceals her beauties..

Subhan'Allah ♡. Those of  us who aren't in scarf let is make an intention to go into scarf. Those of  us who are  in scarf let us make an intention to go into abaya. Those of  us who are in abaya let us make an intention to go into niqab. Those of  us who are in niqab let us ask for istiqamah and make an intention to increase.

♥ O Muslimah... Be Like a Pearl which is Precious and Rare~ and Not a Like A Stone which is found Everywhere! ♥

• Early Marriage

One of the purposes of marriage is finding tranquillity and comfort in another person. And people at a young age need that most. They can start to feel lonely, have low self esteem etc. Most people think that girlfriends and boyfriends are only for sex. But most youngsters get into these relationships also to avoid feelings of loneliness and have that partner to support them emotionally. And what is marriage except an amazing friendship after all? 

Marriage today is not only a solution to physical zina (haram relationships) but also as a protection from the zina of the eyes watching indecency). Most young muslims suffer from this problem as well. And this leaves their iman destroyed. And most never recover from it. 

Islam strongly encourages marriage, because marriage is valid according to sharia means has completed half of his faith and follow the sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad. This is based on the words of the Prophet Muhammad,

"Whoever got married, then he has completed half of his faith. And should he devoted to God in maintaining the other half. " (Narrated by ath-Thabrani)

• Practice hudud for those who commit zina

The government should practice hudud (Allah's law) and punish those who commit zina according to Allah's law. According to law that is set up by Allah, the punishment for non-married person is 100 lashes and married person must be stoned. This punishment is proved by Quran and Sunnah. And the one who perform the punishment must be leader or one has a big influence. Citizens can't punish even if they knew that a person commited zina (by four witnesses or the commitee admits). If they knew, they must go to a court or their leader.

A man came to Allah's Messenger (saws) while he was in the mosque, and he called him, saying, "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! I have committed ‘zina’  (adultery)."  The Prophet (saws) turned his face to the other side, but that man repeated his statement four times, and after he bore witness against himself four times, the Prophet (saws) called him, saying, "Are you mad?" The man said, "No." The Prophet (saws) said, "Are you married?"  The man said, "Yes."  Then the Prophet (saws) said, "Take him away and stone him to death."  Jabir bin 'Abdullah said: "I was among the ones who participated in stoning him and we stoned him at the Musalla. When the stones troubled him, he fled, but we over took him at Al-Harra and stoned him to death"

People who does not have knowledge about hudud tend to doubtful to practice hudud. They think that hudud is a mean law. Hudud is a law which is made by Allah.Yes, Allah is the one who made it. Allah's law would never wrong like us, He  would never forget like us and He would never confuse like us. Allah has prescribed hudud to deter and purge the wrongdoers. Hudud deter those who commit crimes and prevent them from committing them again; they further discourage other people from committing crimes. Some people say that the hudud are harsh. In fact, harshness is sometimes required for reform. Moreover, what is the alternative for hudud? The alternative in a man-made system of justice is imprisonment, which does not deter criminals. And a large percentage of criminals repeat their evil acts with more severe and harmful results after being released from prison. They become more hardened in their criminal intent and, unfortunately for society, have gained in criminal know-how from the malevolent experiences of their fellow criminals while in jail.